A one-on-one relationship therapist in Denver, for the fight you keep having
You don’t need your partner, parent, or anyone else to come in. If you keep having the same fight with someone close, we work on your side of the pattern.
Accepting new clients. Availability updated Oct ‘26
Does this sound like you?
You’re in a long relationship, newly dating, raising kids, or still working out how to be an adult with your own parents. You might notice yourself thinking:
With a partner: "We keep having the same fight, and I can see my part in it."
With a parent or in-law: "One comment at a family dinner, and I feel like I'm a teenager again."
With your kids: "I snap at my kids, and then I hate how I acted."
When someone gets close: "Things go well until they start to matter, and then I pull back."
The same pattern, no matter who it's with
When the same conflict shows up with a partner, a parent, and your kids, it's usually one pattern, not three separate problems. So I start with the pattern underneath, not each relationship one at a time.
What I see in my work as a therapist in Denver is that people don't get angry, go quiet, or blame because they don't care. Those reactions once made sense. They probably protected you somewhere along the way.
The trouble is that old protection now shows up with the people who matter most. Good intentions alone haven't stopped it, and that doesn't mean something is wrong with you.
In our sessions, we slow down a moment that went badly. We name the feeling or need underneath it, check whether that's the real one, and plan how to say it.
I pace the work to where you are. First we focus on understanding your reactions and settling yourself. When you're ready, we practice something new.
What I help with
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Partner Conflict
The same fight keeps coming back, whatever it starts about. We work on your side of it, and your partner doesn't need to come in.
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Parents and in-laws
Old family roles can kick in fast, even years after you've left home. We work out a steadier way to respond and say what you need.
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Starting and keeping relationships
Things go well until someone gets close, and then you pull back or push them away. We look at what closeness brings up for you.
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Parenting conflict
You react to your kids in a way you promised yourself you wouldn't. We look at where that reaction comes from and practice responding the way you'd like to.
You don't need to have it all figured out before you reach out.
Meet Ari Goodman, LCSW
Hi, I'm Ari. I'm a relationship therapist in Denver who works with individuals, licensed as an LCSW in Colorado and a LICSW in Washington, and I've been in practice for 7 years.
I've trained in Relational Psychodynamic Therapy through the Contemporary Psychodynamic Institute. In plain terms, that means looking at how past relationships shape the way you react now, and learning how to do things differently.
Maybe you're tired of the same fight. You care about the person, you can see your part, and you still end up somewhere you didn't mean to go.
It can feel like everyone is fighting these days, and not many people are stopping to reflect. I believe people can figure it out, if they know what they're actually fighting about and how to say it in a way that's likely to be heard.
It’s incredibly hard to break out of patterns of relating, so I don't expect you to have it figured out. As long as you come in with openness and a willingness to work hard, you’ll be in a good spot.
What to expect
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1. Book a free 20-minute consult
Pick a time that works for you. It's a video call, with no cost and no commitment.
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2. Talk it through
Tell me a little about what's going on, and ask anything you like. If I'm not the right fit, I'll point you toward other options.
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3. Start your first session
Sessions are 50 to 55 minutes by video. Before we meet, you'll fill out intake forms through Sessions Health, and we start at your pace.
Where I see clients
I'm an online therapist in Denver, and I see adults anywhere in Colorado and Washington. I don't have an in-person office.
Sessions are done through telehealth, so there's no commute and no waiting room. You need to be physically located in Colorado or Washington during each session, since that's where I'm licensed.
If you've been looking for therapy for relationship issues near you, "near" can mean your own living room. I see clients Monday through Friday, 9am to 6pm Mountain Time.
Fees at a glance
Sessions are $175 for 50 to 55 minutes, and the first 20-minute consult is free. You can pay privately or use insurance. I'm in network with Aetna, UHC, Cigna, Kaiser (Denver metro), Anthem, Lyra, and First Health in Colorado, and Aetna, Cigna, First Choice Health, Lyra, Premera, and Regence in Washington.
If your plan isn't listed, just ask.